How to Keep a Relationship with your In-Laws after Divorce
Just because you are divorcing your spouse doesn’t mean you need to cut off all contact with your in-laws. If you are lucky enough to have a good relationship with your in-laws or need to keep it friendly for the sake of your children then you will want to make sure to maintain a good relationship with your in-laws during and after the divorce. The divorce attorneys at Larsen Law Firm in Provo can help to ease some of the stresses of the divorce process so you can focus on your relationship with your family. Below are some tips to help you in maintaining the relationship with your in-laws after a divorce.
No matter how long you have known them and been a family your in-laws may feel some guilt or obligation to limit contact with you. This type of separation may be extremely painful; it may even be more painful for you than the loss of your spouse. While this change may be difficult for you, try to empathize with their struggle and desire to remain loyal to their child/sibling.
You and your in-laws may need several conversations or interactions to establish your new normal. It may take a while to find a balance that is comfortable for everyone. This is a life change that will affect not only you and your spouse, but everyone involved in your life.
Directness is Key
At some point you will need to have direct communication with your in-laws if you want to maintain that relationship. You shouldn’t have this discussion right after you announce the divorce; give them some time to digest the information. When you do talk with them, be direct and compassionate, as this conversation is likely very hard for them as well. Be up front with your feelings and why you want to maintain your relationship with them.
Being respectful of your in-laws and their wishes is important if you want to maintain a relationship. Do not say negative things about your ex-spouse and do not put them in the position of taking sides. At the end of the day, their child/sibling is still a family member. Also, don’t use your interactions with your in-laws as a way to find personal information about your ex. Being able to work through your issues with your spouse in a respectful manner, such as through mediation or collaborative divorce, can set the stage for a better relationship with your in-laws.