Divorcing a High-Conflict Personality
To ease some of the stresses of getting a divorce you can trust the Divorce Attorneys at Larsen Law Firm in Provo, Utah to help. We provide you with the experience and advice you need to get through this process. When it comes to dealing with your soon to be ex-spouse who also has a high-conflict personality it may seem like the divorce process is a lot harder than it needs to be. We have provided some tips you can try throughout the divorce process while dealing with your high-conflict ex.
It is important to know that people with high-conflict personality types thrive off of conflict. If you can minimize the amount of time and contact you have with your ex then you reduce the amount of conflict that may arise. Be wary of what you do and say when you are around your ex. They will hold anything you do against you throughout the divorce proceedings. Keep conversation to a minimum and stick to the facts when you do have to communicate.
Control your Emotions
Keeping your feelings to yourself when dealing with someone who has a high-conflict personality is key. Those who have these personality types see emotions as a manipulating tool and an invitation to bully and get you down. Keep your points of view to yourself when dealing with your ex. They can view your points of view on any matter as a threat. Call up a friend or family member to help when you need to vent your feelings regarding the divorce process.
Plan for the Worst
If your ex has a high-conflict personality type, then you should expect them to always try and bring you down. You may want to anticipate being dragged into court for every little thing. Do counter this make sure you keep documentation of everything. Never post or write anything that can be used against you at a later time. Always keep all communication simple and factual leaving all emotion out of it.
Never Admit to Mistakes
Admission to mistakes or apologies to someone with a high-conflict personality will motivate them to continue the abuse. They will view your admission to mistakes as reassurance that you are the cause of all of the problems.
Divorce is difficult, and dealing with someone who is known to have a high-conflict personality can make it so much worse. By following the tips above you could have better control of the situation you have been placed in. The Divorce Attorneys at Larsen Law Firm in Provo, Utah can give you the advice and experience you need throughout the divorce process. Call our law firm today to learn more about our attorneys and how we can help you.