How to Tell Your Spouse You Want a Divorce

If you find yourself questioning your marriage due to unhappiness, divorce has probably crossed your mind. The divorce attorneys at Larsen Law Firm in Provo can help you with all your divorce questions and needs. If divorce does turn out to be the best option for you and your marriage you will be faced with having to tell your spouse you want a divorce. We have gathered some tips below to help you in telling your spouse you want a divorce.

Preparation

If you are seriously considering divorce, then there is a chance both you and your spouse have talked about divorce before. In order not to blindside your spouse you will want to do whatever you can to try and fix the marriage first. Consider going to counseling together to see if you can work past most of your marital problems. If counseling doesn’t seem to help you will want to prepare yourself for the discussion you will be having with your spouse. Practice what you are going to say and how you are going to present you decision of divorce. Pick a private, quiet room so you can discuss everything without feeling uncomfortable or risk getting interrupted. If you are worried about your safety, have a third party in the room.

Telling your Spouse

There are a few things you will want to do to have a successful conversation with your spouse. The first is to try and remain calm and be kind. Be as direct as you can so you don’t cause any confusion or miscommunication. Focus on using “I” language as to not bombard your spouse or make them think it is all their fault. Even if you practice and remain calm, you should still expect to get an angry response. How you deal with this response is key. Try to continue to use “I” language and remain calm, kind, and direct.

Give them Time

After you break the news to your spouse you will want to make sure you give them enough time and space to think about the changes that will be occurring in both of your lives. Don’t discuss divorce details right away. Focus on making living arrangements during your separation and giving each other enough space and time to heal.

Divorce is never a pleasant topic to talk about or deal with. By following the tips above and seeking the advice of one of the experienced divorce attorneys at Larsen Law Firm in Provo, you may have an easier time breaking the news to your spouse. Our attorneys are here to help you with all of your divorce needs. Call us today to schedule an appointment.